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A note from Tess

You've built a life you're proud of. The career, the friends who actually show up, the flat that finally feels like yours. So why does deciding whether a man is right for you still come down to a list you wrote in your Notes app three years ago, and a feeling in your stomach you don't trust?

This issue is about fixing that. Ten minutes, three steps, and you'll know which of the things you want are real standards and which ones are just lovely. Then, the next time chemistry turns up, you'll have something better to hold onto than a vibe.

Tess x

Tess laughing, holding a bouquet of tulips
Flowers on a Tuesday, for no reason. Standards, met.

Half your list isn't a standard.

Watch it get marked up.

Tall is a preference. Six figures tells you what he earns. Neither tells you whether you'll feel respected, how you'll disagree, or whether he wants the life you're building. Your High End Standards sorts what's actually load-bearing from what's just lovely, using your own life as the measure.

Message from a client: when I came back I did the non-negotiable sheet and realised he isn't all that, and it instantly snapped me back to reality
exactly this
Sort my list properly £37
What I want in a manNotes · 3 yrs ago

    Inside the system

    Ten minutes. Three steps. Yours for life.

    Open it on your phone or laptop. It saves as you go, so you can do it in one sitting or over a glass of wine across two evenings.

    1. Your values, countedFrom where your money, your home and your week actually go. You don't pick them. Your life shows you.
    2. Non-negotiables vs bonusesEverything you want, sorted against those values. What doesn't move, and what's just nice.
    3. The gapWhat you say you want, side by side with who you've actually been choosing.
    Message from a client: that standards sheet is insane, it's made me realise I didn't even know what I wanted in the past
    step three, in her words
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    Your High End Standards on a laptop and two phones works on your phone, saves as you go
    export straight to your notes or as a PDF

    Before and after

    Three years in your Notes app. Ten minutes later.

    Drag the line. On the left, the list you've been carrying around. On the right, what you leave with: your values in order, what doesn't move, what's just lovely, and the one thing you're not bending on again.

    Message from a client: wrote a detailed list of all my non-negotiables and categorised them. Safe to say, my boyfriend doesn't feature on that list. He's my biggest supporter
    her after

    go on, drag it

    I want the after £37
    BeforeAfter
    You put more thought into choosing your hairdresser.

    Look, absolutely no judgement here, I was the same. The before-and-afters, the three reference photos that look identical to everyone else's, every review read twice.

    But why do we do all that, when the person you could build your entire fucking life with gets "tall, funny, good job"? Choosing a partner is one of the biggest life, financial and business decisions you'll ever make. It deserves at least the same investigation.

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    In the box

    Everything you get.

    No account to make, no course to sit through, nothing to print. You buy it, you open it, you know.

    Message from a client: I do keep referring back to my non-negotiables, Tess
    this is the 'for life' bit
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